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Today, I decided to sit outside and meditate.
I came outside, got my music on and set my timer for 12 minutes.
You’d think 12 minutes would be easy enough to do, right?
I’m trying to remain steady and at ease …
Meditation IS really difficult when there’s a lot going on.
I totally understand that meditation is difficult, especially when you’re going through difficult times.
And yet, that is when we need it the most!
Do the best you can and persevere …
I, ultimately, had to stop after 8 minutes. (Click here to see why today’s attempt was so challenging)
At least I got a few minutes to let go and think about the wonderful things in my life.
Love and Blessings,
I want to help you connect with yourself ... with your peace and happiness that is within!
Meditation is truly one of the most rewarding and life changing activities that you can explore and ultimately use to expand your life experience.
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A big part of leading a life of happiness is being able to stick to your guns when you need to, and not bending over backwards just to be a people pleaser.
Now, this does NOT mean refusing to help others, being unkind, or anything of the sort – there’s nothing wrong with pleasing others. The problems happen when your concern for pleasing others comes at the expense of your own principles, your own happiness, or gets in the way of other things you need to accomplish for your own life.
The unfortunate reality is that there will always be people who try to take advantage of others (and some people who will without even realizing it), and if you allow yourself to be manipulated – sometimes by your own internal desire for acceptance – you’ll eventually be doing so many things for others, you stop paying attention to your own needs.
It’s fulfilling to help others, but can be very stressful to allow others to demand support from you. It’s all about making choices that satisfy the greatest good – helping others should not become such a burden that it impacts your ability to live a happy life.
Similarly, a pattern of “people pleasing” may prevent you from speaking out in opposition to something you disagree with – and if you’re not standing up for what you believe in, it’s going to take a toll on your self-worth. Staying close-mouthed just to avoid rocking the boat will ultimately turn into regret.
It should go without saying that upsetting people on purpose is NOT the path to personal happiness – but being prepared to navigate a situation where you can’t please everyone (and not feeling guilty about it) will go a long way in helping you keep your head held high, even when you have to be the bearer of bad news.
The best approach is to strike a balance between what’s good for you and what’s good for the people around you. Total selfishness is not the answer, obviously, but neither is letting yourself become a doormat.
If you’ve never tried meditating, I can’t recommend it enough! The lasting effects on your personal well being are just so massive, and this is something you can do in your own home – without spending a dime or even going out of your way to prepare or set up.
Meditation encompasses a rather large portion of different, more specific practices, but at its root, meditating is about relaxation, controlling your mind and body, and clearing away the cluttered thoughts that cause so much tension in all of our lives.
And people have long understood the benefits that meditation can bring in terms of an overall sense of calm, better sleep, relieving physical tension in the body, and a lasting sense of peace – but studies have shown that meditation actually helps the brain reduce stress reactions and increases brain activity in areas associated with compassion, self-awareness, and happiness!
Meditating even one single time makes these positive effects all the more apparent – the good vibes and calm sensations stick with you throughout the day, and as it becomes a part of your normal routine, these feelings of calm acceptance and harmony with the world around you only last longer.
The same sensations of relaxation and oneness actually prime our brains for increased empathy, which means we have an easier time connecting with others (another important element of happiness). Not only does this happen in the first few minutes after meditating, regular meditation can also change your brain chemistry in a long-term way, rewiring your brain for increased happiness!
You don’t even have to take my word for it. Try it out and see!
There are plenty of great meditation aids available out there, that will walk you through steps to relaxation and controlled breathing, and once you’ve got a little bit of practice, you’ll be able to do it all on your own.
Just give it a shot, and I promise that you’ll immediately see the benefits!
How often do you stop to reflect on what you have? Do you tell the people in your life how much they mean to you on a regular basis? Do you feel thankful for good weather, for new opportunities, for simple pleasures and little conveniences that make your life easier?
If not, it might be time to start thinking this way.
Gratitude is perhaps the single most powerful component of living a happy life. We’ve talked in the past about the importance of connecting with others, of using your energy to improve the lives of others, and even touched on SoulPancake’s study on gratitude – but a lifestyle of thankfulness involves ALL of these topics.
It’s about appreciation for what’s in front of you, and looking for the elements worth appreciating in every experience, both good and bad.
When you learn to live with gratitude, it’s like seeing the silver lining of every cloud – but even beyond making the most out of unfavorable situations, thinking and living in this way opens you up to looking at the world with a very different set of eyes.
Gratitude is more than thankfulness (even though feeling thankful is part of it). Sure, you’ll feel “thankful” when someone does you a favor or pays you a compliment, but a mindset of gratitude will allow you to see the goodness within those people, to appreciate all of the moments that have built up to their kind words or actions (in both your life and theirs), and ultimately prepares you to articulate how important such acts of kindness really are.
It’s like accomplishing multiple goals with a single state of mind! A grateful attitude helps you look on the bright side, it makes you more open to connecting with new people and appreciating the people already in your life, it makes you notice and celebrate small successes (and look for lessons in failures), helps you feel confident and brave, and gives you a reason to smile!
Notice that every one of those things mentioned above is a pathway to happiness on its own – and gratitude helps bring about ALL OF THEM.
Living a life of gratitude is a gateway to greater happiness and more connection with the world around you. You can start small – look for things to appreciate in your immediate surroundings. Look to the things that make you the happiest, and start making it a regular practice. Soon you’ll be looking for things to appreciate everywhere – and then you’ll do it without even thinking about it!
This is your chance to totally change your approach to daily life. Get started now!
Today, March 20th, is the United Nations International Day of Happiness! On this very special day, the United Nations Foundation is teaming up with Pharrell Williams and many, many others to spread a message of happiness to the whole world!
If you’re not familiar with Pharrell, he’s the man behind the hit song Happy, and the world’s first 24-hour music video to accompany it. With this “24 Hours of Happy” in tow, the United Nations is using this day to raise awareness for both the importance of individual happiness, and the global need to make human happiness and wellbeing a fundamental goal for all governments, businesses, and every single person on the planet.
Through non-profit programs and public service announcements, the folks behind the International Day of Happiness are helping to improve the way we think about the world around us, and inspire every last one of us to not only embrace our own happiness, but to take action to increase the happiness of those around us.
The methods, as you well know, are countless! Everything from making sure you’re getting enough exercise to making a point to smile at strangers will help your own levels of happiness – and on a larger scale, helping others in need, choosing businesses known for high ethical standards, and simply exuding kindness in your daily life will go a long way in making the world a happier place to live in!
There are a few online resources dedicated to the International Day of Happiness, with information on how to get involved in the big–picture goals, learn about the physical benefits of personal happiness, and connect with other people around the world who are committed to building a world of happy people!
For starters, visit http://www.dayofhappiness.net/ for details about the International Day of Happiness mission and the UN’s resolution to build a happier, healthier global community.
At http://www.actionforhappiness.org/ you’ll find even more wonderful resources, tips, and activities to help promote happiness in your community (and learn why it’s so important).
And as a bit of a bonus, put a little pep in your step with the 24-hour music video for Pharrell’s Happy here: http://24hoursofhappy.com/
Let’s celebrate happiness together – today, tomorrow, and every day after!